Welcome to our test on passive aggressive behavior.
Your next question for yourself is probably this: “What am I doing here? Why does this matter to me?“
In your opinion, you are an honest husband who always tries to do what is best for your wife and family. You treat them well, provide for them what they need, try to teach them the right ways of doing things.
If that’s true, why is your wife still saying she needs more? Well, do you often hear her say:
● Stop being so passive aggressive
● You’re trying to sabotage my projects
● You don’t include me in the household finances/decision-making
● You always put me down in front of our family and friends
Does your wife often blame and reproach you for events in the past that you feel you have no responsibility in? Why would she be bringing up these old things, or keep using them against you? Is she just being controlling, or is there a point underneath it all?
Sometimes it is difficult for us to understand our partners – we’re all only human, after all. The most common cause of frustration during conflict is either a) feeling like you didn’t do something you’re being accused of or b) feeling like you’ve fulfilled something you’re accused of not doing enough of.
Why is your wife complaining about this alleged passive aggression, and about pushing her away – when all you are trying to do is make her happy? Is there any reason to stick around if she can’t be pleased? Well, who can understand women, right?
Even now, she is pressuring you to get therapy or coaching because she says you are too sullen, depressed and angry about small things, and that you ignore the big marriage problems. Does she think she needs a professional to ask you to open up and say what you think? What are you supposed to do with her move now?
We understand if you’re not willing to go to therapy because you don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. We also know that you may feel as if you can’t trust anybody but yourself at this point. We know that at this point, you feel like your situation is building momentum, heading for disaster as surely as a runaway train is about to derail.
That’s why we offer our free, fast test so that you can decide for yourself where you stand. Find out for yourself if you use passive aggression with your wife! You don’t need to pay someone in a therapist’s office – you can find answers and solutions right now.
Visit our Passive Aggression Test here, get your profile, and with that tool in your hands, stop your marriage from derailing off the tracks.
Nora Femenia, PHd is a coach passionate about supporting people recover from Passive Aggression once and for all. She has created a powerful set of tools for helping you to break out of the mind-set that keeps you in a toxic relationship, by working out unconscious beliefs and family blueprints. You can get started NOW with a free coaching session please visit http://conflictcoach.me/
